The hating single friend is the worst kind of hater, mostly because
your shade is so well developed that you don’t even notice that you are
throwing it. You assumed that you were happy when your best friend
entered into a relationship. After all, that’s your homie…your right
hand…your ace boom. If they're happy, you’re happy, right? Sure,
if you weren’t single, but since you are, you just might be the hating single friend. Here are the 4 Tell-Tale Signs:
1) Anticipating the demise of the relationship: “If y’all break up, is it okay for me to still hang with the crew?” Your best friend’s relationship has some major benefits for you. You have
been introduced to a new group of people that you genuinely enjoy
hanging out with and have started to regard as friends or at least close
acquaintances. You might be saddened by the thought of potentially
ending your friendship with these folks to spare your bestie from
discomfort in the “unfortunate” event of a break-up. Your concerns are
valid. You may have thought it was an appropriate question, but you
thought wrong. Knowing the answer to this question might be beneficial,
but speaking of the termination of a positive thing is generally
regarded as rude.
2) Resorting to teasing every chance you get: “Girl, you’re sprung” or “Boy, she got you whipped.” You mad? You’re single so you may be unaware or have forgotten that when
people are in a relationship they should be emotionally invested in
their mate which is sometimes expressed by engaging in behaviors and actions
that are appeasing to ones mate. If your bestie and their
significant other wore matching t-shirts everyday for 5 months, it is
what it is. If their happy, your third party opinion does not matter. If
your homeboy single-handedly carved his and his girl’s initials in
every single tree in your city he would definitely be sprung but his
girl would most likely be appreciative. His girl’s opinion is greater than your
opinion. Relax with the teasing; it’s a way for your hating self to
subtly say that your best friend’s romantic behaviors are atypical of a
normal relationship. Let the two of them define what they want their
relationship to look like.
3) Trying to provoke guilt: “I don’t ever see you anymore.” Not understanding that the significant other should indeed have
priority over you is a hating single friend foul. Just because your
friend can’t make it to every ladies night or spend the entire Saturday
watching football does not mean that you are forgotten or that their
relationship is unhealthy. You have to learn to share.
4) Asking hate-laced questions: “Can you just go one day without talking about him/her?” If there was to ever be a dumb question, that would be it. If you want
to go a day without hearing about him, let’s dive into the juicy
details of your love life. Oh, wait…seriously though, your best friend
listens to you repeatedly talk about things that you are excited about
in your life, rather it’s your job, your pet, your family members, or
even television shows. Why would you try to censor their
conversations? When was the last time you asked your bestie to stop
gossiping or being negative? Asking your friend
to not share the positive details of their life makes you a hater.
The root of hating is jealousy, which has never brought a single
person closer to their desires. Instead you should try celebrating your
friend’s happiness. Your time is coming, just wait on it. In the
meantime, you can jot down all of the annoying things that people in
relationships do and vow to never be like that. Have you displayed any of the signs of a hating single friend? Admitting it is considered to be the first step to recovery...
No shade coming from my direction.. I love love!!!
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