After a breakup, you feel like you may never find another person to
“complete you” in the Jerry McGuire sense of the phrase. You yearn for the next
companion to be by your side. You fear being that single guy at the group
dinner, or being the third, fifth, or even 7th wheel at any outing. You dread
not having someone to come back home to at the end of the day. But what if you
didn’t feel compelled to seek that companionship right away? What if you could
see that life as a single person has some pretty awesome benefits that are
often overlooked?
As you start renewing your own unique identity independent of your ex, it’s
critical to spend some time single, rediscovering yourself and having some fun
with your newly found liberty. Think about it, you can do whatever you want.
How many times do you recall not being able to see the movie you had been dying
to watch or go to the restaurant you had a craving for? Now, you can act on
whatever urges you have (within reason of course). Spontaneity can be your
best friend. Do you want to take a weekend trip down to Key
West, New Orleans or London? What’s holding
you back? Go with the flow of life and enjoy the random opportunities that
arise. They’re often the ones you will remember the most.
Time is one of the most invaluable commodities in the world. When you are
single, you’ll have boatloads of time. Pick up a new hobby, learn a different
language, or invest more time into your business and career. Single people are
more likely to eat right and exercise well. Single guys want to put the best possible version of themselves out
there, so you’re more likely to eat clean and hit the gym more consistently
than coming home to a fresh pan of newly baked brownies.
The way you interact with people around you becomes completely
different as well. When you’re in a committed relationship, other friendships
often fall by the wayside when you’re overly infatuated with your partner. As a
single guy, you keep in touch with old friends more often and spark up new
conversations with random people at the bar or supermarket. You meet and engage
with such a variety of people who can enrich your life in numerous ways. There’s
an obvious carryover from that notion to the dating scene. You can go out with
such a diverse array of people, personalities, and types.
On the flip side, you can rid your life of the toxic relationships that have
been holding you back. Maybe it was your in-laws you just couldn’t stand being
around or her best friend who inflicted negativity into every
conversation. You can’t pick your family, but you sure as hell can pick your friends
and the people you surround yourself with. When you’re single, you have more
freedom to make that clan have as positive an impact on your life as
possible. So next time you see that couple at the bar who seems to have it all
together, don’t view them with jealously or despair. The odds might reflect
that a part of him envies the independence you have as a bachelor.
Take the time to enjoy single life, embrace the freedom, focus on enriching
and loving yourself, and most importantly enjoy having the whole bed to
yourself for a while…
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