It’s Easy - I have interviewed numerous
couples that have been married for anywhere from 10 years, to my parents being married 55 years last week years, and
they have all had one common denominator: it was easy. They didn’t have multiple breakups, or plate-throwing fights, or countless instances of infidelity to muddle through. They met. They liked each other. They started dating. It was easy.
They got married. Then they stayed married because they liked each
other. There were no major road bumps that caused them to doubt why they were trying to force the relationship to work. In the right relationship, you’ll realize that it takes effort, but it doesn’t take work.
The Important Stuff Is The Same - Do your core values align with hers? Do you both agree on whether or not you want kids? What does an
ideal night look like to each of you? How frequently do you each
exercise? If you don’t know yourself, and if you don’t know what values are
truly important to you, then you might find it difficult to determine whether
or not she is the right one for you. If you find yourself searching
for a partner to complete you, you might need to do some searching internally first. If the big things match up, the little things fall by the wayside.
Your Closest Friends Like Her - Your closest friends and family members aren’t you, but they have a pretty good idea of who you are. In fact, recent research suggests that those closest to you actually know you better than you know yourself. So if the people who have your best interests at heart don’t get along with your significant other, it could be a warning sign. Have the patience and willingness to truly listen to your friends’ opinions on your relationship.
It’s Almost Scary How Much She Turns You On - You don’t want to hide her from your friends… you want to show her off. You don’t have a passive-aggressive headache when she is in the mood,
you find her so arousing that she distracts you from your work. You will want to devour her, and by that I mean you’ll want to know her thoughts, her feelings. You will adore her cellulite, her eye wrinkles, and the way she snorts when she laughs her hardest. You are attracted to her body, her mind, her heart, and her soul.
You Want To Make Her Life As Easy As Possible - Men are born problem solvers, it’s how we see everything, and the way you view this woman is no different. You don’t just want to show her the simple solutions, you will
want to help her live the happiest and most uncomplicated life possible. Your jacket will be flying off your shoulders before she even hints that she is cold. You will hear all about her day even if you know exactly how to ‘fix’ it. You will catch her before she falls. If you have an unrelenting desire to help make her life as
pleasurable as possible, take that hint: you really care about this one.
No one is perfect. There will always be what is known as the "the price of admission" in any relationship, the tiny things that can be cute but are usually frustrating: She doesn’t put away the bread after taking a slice. She never
remembers to hang up her wet towels. She snores after a night of
drinking red wine. But, when the big things are in place, you'll realize that "the price of
admission’ is ridiculously worth it. The right partner will inspire you to grow, to step up, and become the best you in the history of all of the you's there ever was before. And you’ll want to fight to keep her, not that you’ll need to, because she won't let you go either...
I genuinely feel taking such decisions is the toughest but important one and hence many a times the need of counselors and relationship advisors is genuinely felt at many points here.
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