How To Be A Valentine In January

Valentine’s Day seems to be next on everyone’s romantic radar. Television commercials, businesses, and nearly everyone else as a result are starting to wheel out the hearts and the roses. To me, it’s still closer to New Year’s Day than it is to Valentine's Day but it got me thinking. How have you treated that special someone in your life up to this point? Have you made them feel special? Have you been a friend through thick and thin? Have you been a lover like no other? Maybe it’s time to look at the past few weeks of January through the lens of Valentine’s Day to see how you should treat that special someone in the weeks to come.

Have you made that special someone feel “special” since they received that title? Have you gone shopping with them to improve their look and boost the way they feel about themselves? Have you encouraged them to travel or experience new things? Have you treated them to a dinner or something equally as nice, maybe bought them a little something you know they’ll love? It doesn’t take much to make someone feel special, a kind word here, a pat on the back there, or to just reach out and tell them how proud you are of the things they have done. This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come, so go out of your way for them and make them see just how special they are.

How have you been a friend to this special someone? Do they feel as though they know you will always be beside them? No matter how down they are, you’ll be there showing them the sunlight on cloudy days. No matter how happy they are, you will remember this event for them and always have those stories on hand. Are you the voice that says one more hamstring curl, the whisper that says go ahead and have that cake, the chuckle that says I can’t believe we are about to do this? Can you be the voice they listen to that encourages them to find their own voice? It doesn’t take much to make a friend feel special, a word of encouragement here, a memory there, and an honest appraisal that they are important and they matter. This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come, so go out of your way and make sure they know just how much of a friend you are.

Have you been a lover to this special someone? Do they feel like you are the cornerstone of their life? Have you shown them how much you love them in thought, word and deed every single day? Have you been that pillar of strength in times of need? Have you let them cry on your shoulder when life has been unfair? Have you shown that special someone that life without them is dull and gray, that the day is never truly bright until they arrive? Can you be the person they trust unconditionally, can you be the person they know they can count on no matter what, can you be the person they love most and love them back because they are worthy of that love? This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come, so go out of your way and show them in thought, words and deeds, just how special this love is.

Here is something for you to think about: You should be the most important person in your own life. If you don’t consider yourself special, why would the world consider you special? How can you treat another person special if you don’t consider them equally as special as you? That mindset puts them on a pedestal and puts you beneath them, when you both should be equals. If you can’t be your own best friend, then how can you be a friend to anyone else? If you can’t love yourself, then how is someone else supposed to love you? If you don’t consider yourself worthy of love, you will eventually reject the love that is given to you.

You should always be that special someone in your life first. You were there when you were born, you will be there until you die, and you know your greatest achievements and your deepest fears. How are you treating this special someone? How are you treating yourself? Treat yourself as someone special because you will never know anyone else like you know yourself. Don’t neglect yourself, don’t lower yourself, and don’t put yourself down. When you treat yourself as special, it shines for the rest of the world to see, especially to the one you want to eventually see as special for you... 

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