You Are Loved

Your weight, your height, your eye color, your income, your job title and the car you drive. Your wrinkles, your fat, your cellulite, your hair length, your hairline, your bra size, your penis length, and anything or everything that you obsess about when you look in the mirror. Believe me when I tell you that all of it is just noise.

All of those things don’t mean a whole lot to anyone who really matters in your life. It does not matter about your bank balance, or who you are in the world, or even what you look like. You are you because of your heart. You are you because of your unique essence. You are you because of the specific ways that you show up in the world that don’t match up to anyone's way of being.

You are lovable and valuable, simply because you exist. You will be lovable and valuable even if you lose your hair and gain weight. You will be lovable and valuable even if you lose your important sounding job. You will be lovable and valuable even if you make a mistake that feels out of integrity sometimes. You will be lovable and valuable even if you try making a run at your dream job and it takes longer than you think it should be taking.

You will be lovable and valuable even if all you do today is smile at a stranger while you walk past them. You will also be lovable and valuable if you are in such an awful mood that you can barely look up at anyone to make eye contact.

For the love of all that is good with the world, please don’t buy into the socially-reinforced noise that tells you that you need to be slimmer, stronger, sexier, richer, or better dressed in order to be lovable, worthwhile, or valuable as a human being. You are lovable as you currently are, and that will never change.

You are loved, and I promise you will be loved and deserving of love at every stage of your journey...