Getting Over It

As the old song goes, “Breaking up is hard to do,” but how do you pick up the pieces after a relationship is over? Here are three ways to soften the blow and get back to being your unbeatable self!

1. Don’t Try To Replace Them - A lot of men and women make the mistake of instantly dating once they break up with the one they loved. They are working on what is called "the replacement theory" and that having someone is better than having nobody at all. This used to be me all day, everyday. The minute the relationship was over, I was on the hunt for someone new. I, much like some of you, cannot stand the thought of being alone. You believe that by jumping into a new relationship, you won’t have to feel the pain that comes with the old one ending. The truth is, the pain of a break up is good for you and something you NEED to experience.

2. Just Like Like A Tunnel, You Have To Go Through It - While you’re processing the end of a relationship, you grow into a better and stronger version of yourself. You need to take the time to figure out what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, and understanding what went wrong with the relationship. You don’t want to make the same mistakes again, and this is your chance to learn. This is your chance to develop as a person, so you should embrace it. As much as it hurts, this time if going through it is so important and special.

3. Empower Yourself - You need to empower yourself after a relationship ends. Give yourself the time you deserve for YOU. Start understanding yourself better. Reconnect with yourself, and who you are. When you start to understand what makes you tick, you become the most powerful version of yourself possible. You go from being “we” to “me” again. Don’t be afraid of the pain. It’s there to help you grow. It’s going to show you what you need to do next. 

Breaking up may be hard to do, but putting yourself back together shouldn't be harder...