The Profile of an A-May-zing Woman

The month of a-MAY-zing love continues! Let me take this time to celebrate the women out there who are by far a-MAY-zing in their own right. I don't know how men can even form the words "where are all the good women", but just in case you may feel there is a slight of good women out there, let me show you a few of her characteristics. 

Confidence: I’m pretty sure this is standard on everyone’s list. A good woman is a woman who is confident in most aspects of herself. I say most, because the reality is everyone has something(s) they’re insecure about. A good woman will walk with confidence and talk with confidence. She’ll let you know she’s sure of herself and she doesn’t need you, but she want’s you. It’s important however that she knows how to be confident without being condescending.  A woman who is self righteous is NOT a good woman.

Physically Attractive: Don’t be fooled. Being physically appealing IS a characteristic of a good woman. Let me explain (before I feel the wrath of angry women). For me, being physically attractive isn’t just about wearing the tightest dress, shortest skirt, showing the most cleavage, or wearing the best makeup. It’s much more than that. Being physically attractive means taking care of your body, eating properly, being physically active, making sure you look and feel as fit as you can. Aside from the obvious physical benefits of doing this (which guy DOESN’T love a flat stomach and nice toned legs?), it shows that you’re conscious of your health, you care about your body and you don’t plan to wear it out as quickly as possible by eating crap, drinking to excess too often, smoking, etc.

Ambition: Some men are fine with women who are ‘dead weight’. Women who are quite fine with just doing as they’re told and living off their partner. Well, THAT is NOT a good woman. A good woman will have ambition. She’ll want to strive for more and better for herself and for her partner. She’ll want to make sure that whatever it is she does, she keeps doing it better, and she’ll help make sure her partner does exactly the same. A good woman will never be content with just sitting down and ‘living off anyone. That will never, and should never be enough for a good woman.

Patience and Understanding: Men are stupid...there, I said it. We’re dumb. We can’t multitask, we forget important things, we can’t argue about multiple things at once and we do the exact opposite of what you told us to do 30 minutes ago. So, a good woman is the woman that will be patient and understand that despite all that, we have the best intentions.We’re trying to make you happy and we’re willing to learn (however, willing and able are two different things). A good woman will understand that her partner may not always want what she wants, like what she likes or think how she wants him to think.

A Teacher of New Things: No, I’m not talking about in the bedroom (well not JUST the bedroom). A good woman will be able to teach her man new things and help him grow. It doesn’t have to be school stuff, it could be simple stuff like how to add a little extra flavor to his favorite dish or the benefit of taking one vitamin over another. She’ll add value to his life and help make him better tomorrow than he was today. She doesn’t have to be a university scholar, she’ll just be herself and do what she does.

And since this post has been so long already, I’ll list the last few

• She’ll be able to compromise
• She’ll treat her partner the same way she wants to be treated
• She’ll listen just as much as she wants to be listened to
• She’ll respect her partner (you’d be surprised how many women don’t respect their partners)
• She won’t force her ideas and beliefs on her partner
• She’ll accept her partner as they are

I think this pretty much covers most of what make a woman a "good woman". Feel free to let me know what else you think are the traits of a good woman. Remember gentlemen, real and a-MAY-zing women exist and are out there waiting to be found by real and a-MAY-zing men!

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Look For The A-May-zing Man

This month my goal is to celebrate the man, and promote the month of a-may-zing love. I found this and I had to share it with you today, so please read along and as always, feel free to leave your comments to stir conversation afterwards. 

THERE ARE MEN OUT THERE who will respond to your text messages. Men who will initiate conversations because they simply can’t wait to see what you’ll say next. There are men who will never be too busy or too preoccupied to wish you good morning, regardless if you’re a country or a block away. Men who remember to call when they say they will – because they want to – and those who surprise you with their curiosity about your sometimes monotonous days. There are men who aim to be the last person you talk to before you sleep and the first name you see on your screen when you rise. Men who show up on time – or even early – men who are genuinely excited to see you.

There are men who want to go on dates. Real dates. Men who want to take you out to their favorite restaurant and will never expect you to pay, but always appreciate the gesture. There are men who want to talk to you for longer than one drink after work, and longer than what’s enough to get you upstairs. There are men who you won’t have to convince to see you. Men who aren’t purely motivated to be your sexual company, but just love being around you. There are men who won’t wait three days — or even three hours– to ask you out again. Men who have grown past games and cryptic messages that you don’t have time to decode. There are men who simply, truly just want to get to know you.

There are men who want to hold your hand in public. Men who enjoy walking around department stores shopping for things they can’t afford but love the feeling of your tiny fingers interlaced with their adorably-bony knuckles. There are men who love sitting next to you on the downtown train just so they can look at your face, even if they notice the uneven lines and imperfect skin in the terrible lighting, because they can’t imagine another way to spend their Saturday afternoon. Men who wish they could capture the wonder on your face when you see a new part of the city you didn’t know you loved, but now do. Men who want to show you off to the strangers on the street because they find you so incredibly intoxicating. There are men who are happy to be seen by your side, thankful to be someone you chose to roam about town with.

There are men who want to be your boyfriend. Who are totally excited to introduce you as their girlfriend to their friends, to their families, to the women who try to pick them up in bars. Men who aren’t unavailable, who are ready for a relationship, who aren’t ripe with excuses why the timing or the situation, the feeling or the possibility just isn’t right. Men who don’t blame yesterday on their immature inability to develop something today and imagine tomorrow. There are men who wouldn’t pass on the chance to be yours because they know how amazing – how special – how superbly wonderful you are, and that they’re lucky you want to be with them, and only them. There are men who don’t hesitate on title changes or commitment. Men who want to grow with you and learn with you, love you the best they can, be with you as long as you allow them to. Men who don’t reply “thank you” when you say those precious three words. There are even men who say that incomparable phrase first, not second.

There are men who are proud of your successes, not intimidated by them. Men who are amazed by your determination and passion, who see the things inside of you that you can’t notice yet, or decide to ignore. There are men who believe in your future as much as they believe in the world you can create together. Men who want to witness your bad times and your good, be there when you fail and celebrate when you find that sense of belonging that we all look for, but never know quite what it means until we stumble across it. There are men who know to buy yellow tulips and kiss your forehead when you’ve had a rough day, men who remember you don’t ever take advice in the worst of situations, but you’ll want to hear it in the morning. Men who remind you of all the things to come and promise to be there when you get to the top of that mountain you’re climbing. There are men who really mean that and are there at the peak. And in the valley.

There are men who listen. Men who linger on each and every word you say because they know they will never know too much about you, and are intrigued to always learn more, regardless of how long they’ve known you. There are men who have the ability to put your needs before their own, who remember the first time they noticed something different about you. Men who like the way you look right after a long shower or a night run, when you’re dressed to go out and when you’re in your sweats from college. Men who see your insecurities but find them only a small part of what makes you beautiful. There are men who will remember your birthday, the day you met, the moment they knew they loved you and when you made them want to be a better person. There are men who love your thoughtful heart as much as they’re turned on by your soft body. Men who know how hard you like it, what part of your neck gets you going and that sometimes, you really just need to be spooned until you fall asleep. There are men who will accept you for whatever you are, whoever you are, whenever you decide to be that person in that place. Men who will stand by you – and fight for you – because they know you’re worth it. Because they know you’d do the same for them.

There are men who will spend weeks, months or even a year planning the perfect way to propose. Men who not only realize how special that moment will be to you, but how important of a story it’ll be to the children you don’t have yet. There are men who want to watch the wrinkles form around your eyes and especially around your mouth, because they’ve spent decades listening to that laugh they love come out of the sweetest smile they’ve ever seen. Men who will leave you notes by your morning coffee or send you sweet – or dirty – text messages at work, even after you’ve been married fifteen years. There are men who will adore all of the things that make you a woman, even when those things bear babies instead of nights of sexual release, even when those things drag instead of rise to occasions. Men who will always remember what you looked like that day you walked toward them in a white gown with glitter on your eyes and the purist of hope in your heart. There are men who truly, honestly, completely will love you.

There are SO MANY men out there. But you’ll never meet them if you don’t LET GO of the guys you really don’t want, to find the men you really deserve. The men who are waiting to meet someone just like you!

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