Critical Mistakes Women Make

RELATIONSHIP LESSONS: The more you pay attention, the less you have to apologize...

One of the mistakes women make in relationships is continuing in behavior that will either shift the relationship or ultimately destroy it. Ladies, if you take control of what you can change up front, and raise the standard, then you have just given the man the blueprint he needs to build something great. What do I mean by this? Sometimes you just can't ignore the tell-tale signs of your behavior, so I want to share from a man's viewpoint, some of the critical mistakes that women make in their relationships with men.

1) Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. Its just a reminder, but "k thnx" is not always code for "hot steamy sex."

2) Thinking our partners must be interested in everything we do, think and say. When it comes down to it, most women zone out when men talk about circuit boards or the infield fly rule, right? Having a best friend or gab partner outside a relationship is a good thing.

3) If you're mad at him because he ate your tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge, tell him you're mad at him because he ate your tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge. Don't turn it into his commitment issues, and his lack of expressing his love for you.

4) Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance, that you're disappointed with anything less. Most romantic movies have a script to tell how it ends, but you on the other hand have to write your own ending, produce it, and find your own co-star too.

 

5) Over-analyzing. There's analysis and then there's over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn't call once during his bachelor weekend in Vegas may be a legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times during a guys' night out? Not so much.

 

6) Using the silent treatment. Unless the man you love is a clairvoyant on the side, your partner can't read your mind, so contrary to popular belief, he won't know what's wrong unless you suck it up and tell him.

 

In closing, let me say that trying to re-invent the relationship wheel isn't the goal here. But having an idea to what is changeable and fixable is the goal. How many times have you heard these things and you worked on these things, but somehow you went back to what feels like comfortable behavior. Don't take it as an indictment on the female psyche, it's just the male point of view...