When Men Pull Away From The Relationship Pt. 2

A good, solid man with proper principles and values will not stray if given his freedom. He will appreciate that you as a woman respect his need for space and time on his own, hanging out with the guys and doing other manly things. However if you try to restrict him, he will resent it and continually try to break out of your grasp and may go so far as to leave you entirely. What you can do when he does this "withdrawal" is
1: Let him have his space and give him time without ditching him entirely. He still needs your care and concern, but he needs some time on his own. A good idea would be to ask him HOW is he doing and not WHAT is he doing.
2: When he comes back to you, take him back and act as you would normally. This will show him that you care enough to give him his freedom without withdrawing your love. This part is incredibly difficult for most women as you will most likely feel hurt and sad that he is not paying attention to you. Try to tell yourself that its not that he doesn't care, but he doesn't know how he is making you feel. It is an instinct in him and trying to change it will only make things worse.
3: Ask yourself, do you want to be in a relationship with a man, or a woman? Withdrawing from you doesn't drive him up the wall like it does you simply because men and women are wired to think differently. Giving him his space will allow him to better himself and make improvements. Its one of the reasons you fell in love with him in the first place.Time on his own is as precious to him as time with you.

Disclaimer: Receiving a man back openly with love doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be happy or pretend that you are NOT hurt. It just means that you aren’t "closed off" to him by punishing him for his pulling away. You can tell him you feel hurt, and this could still be loving him because you are open to him. On the other hand, there are men who are simply selfish. Most men, when they are in a relationship, DO care but they just don’t understand how their actions hurt YOU. And if you simply PUNISH him rather than at least remain open to him; he’s not going to get the hint even though you’re trying to give him the hint. So, whether a man is selfish or simply being a male is a whole other topic, which is perhaps a separate blog in itself for another day...