Wednesday, February 6, 2013

The Attraction Series: Looks

When it comes to attraction and what men are really looking for, there are a lot of things to consider, but let me give you a little insight into what a decent guy looks for. There are 3 main things that contribute to the overall attraction of a woman: Looks, Personality, and Depth. As looks are the initial attraction, I’ll start with that and hopefully give you some good insight into the subject. When you see someone, the first thing you notice is how they look. Whether it be their clothing style, physical attributes or the way they carry themselves, it’s generally what initially attracts. Now let’s clear up a few things here. I’m not looking for the ultimate super model that you would see on television or in magazines. To be honest, that’s just not realistic and in my opinion is an unhealthy and inaccurate view of what the majority of women look like. The truth is, women come in all shapes and sizes, and beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. That means, different guys are attracted to different types of women. Now since that is out of the way, let me share with you a few things that I think affect the attractiveness of a woman.

I would say that the most important thing is to simply take care of yourself. It’s not so attractive to see a woman who just doesn’t care. I get the impression that they have just given up. At the same time, don’t get so obsessed with it that it consumes your life. As is with most things, the key here is balance. Basically, choose a healthy lifestyle and look after yourself. If you take care of yourself, not only will you be more attractive, but you will feel more attractive as well.

This leads in to the next thing, be comfortable with who you are. If you respect yourself and are comfortable with who you are, it’ll show. Insecurity is a big turn off and can even be annoying for many guys. I know I am more attracted to a woman who is comfortable with who she is. Once you get to the point that you are taking care of yourself, and are comfortable with who you are, you can build on that. That brings us to clothing and makeup. Now, this is where I may differ from some guys. Different types of clothing and makeup styles will attract different types of guys, and for different reasons. If you’re looking for a decent guy to form a good relationship with, then I can offer some good thoughts. I am more attracted to a woman who presents herself in a good way. Clothes that leave nothing to the imagination may get guys attention, but probably not the kind of guy that you would want to form a relationship with. The way you dress really says a lot about who you are and even more about what kind of guy you’re looking for. Contrary to what some may believe, it is definitely possible to look “hot” without showing off everything on a date, going to Starbucks, going to church, the supermarket, the laundromat, or wherever! The thing with guys is this: leave us wanting more. If you reveal everything on the first appearance, then what’s left to keep his interest?

The last thing is the way you carry yourself. It’s not so attractive when a girl looks defeated and has given up. You don’t have to have everything together to be attractive, but it helps if you’re not a complete basket case. Your emotional state really does affect the way you look. So make an effort to deal with the issues in your life. It’ll go a long way towards making you feel better about yourself, which ultimately will make you more attractive. But now we’re getting a bit into the next subject, which I will leave for tomorrow. The thing to remember is this, all these factors play into the overall image that you are portraying to men. Think about what kind of message you want to send and go from there. To sum it all up, the way you present yourself will say a lot about the type of guy you are trying to attract. So if you’re looking for something meaningful and want to attract Mr. Right, try this out: Take care of yourself, be comfortable with who you are and the way you look, respect yourself and be mindful about the image you are portraying.

Tomorrow I’ll give you some of my thoughts on personality and things you can do to attract guys, or repel them, so stay tuned...


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