In my countless interviews with men, I've come to the conclusion that men love more deeply than women, and that it's a more profound experience for us. The reason I believe this is because most men are brought up to stuff down their feelings, particularly if they are considered to be feminine feelings. By the time we're in middle school, we've learned to numb our feelings so well that we don't even know they are there any longer.
Love is such a big emotion when it hits us, we are almost overwhelmed with the immensity of it. It cannot be ignored or denied. And because it is so huge, we barely know what to do with it. When a man feels true love, the woman we love is someone to treasure, and we are almost in awe of what is happening. In comparison, love for women is wrapped up in a lot of other emotions, fantasies, wishes fulfilled, joy, excitement, anticipation, future planning, etc. So it all gets diluted among the other feelings that go along with it. Don't get me wrong, women feel it deeply, but its not the huge earth-shaking experience that can hardly be put into words like it is to men. When men feel it, we often don't put it to words because we are just "in it".
Men don't want to talk about their feelings, women do. I'm not saying it's wrong, but men don't put it into words because love simply makes us want to act on it by being with the women we love. If you can understand this very important difference between men and women, you can relax and enjoy our way of experiencing and expressing love, rather than dampening our feelings by insisting that we express it the way you do. We'll both be happier because a man's love would be free to grow and flourish...
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