Forgive Plus Forget Equals Happiness?

Let me tell you all something, unforgiveness will eventually kill you, while the unforgiven is still walking the earth living their life. Don't do it to yourself to the point that you cannot move on. Like the familiar saying goes: "unforgiveness is like drinking poison, and waiting for the other person to die". Danielle Gordon from La Vida Dolce brings the whole perspective of "Forgive and Forget" to light.

 

Remember the old saying, "forgiveness is the key to your happiness"? Well, what happened to "forgetting"? Does that make you happy as well? The equation may not always be so simple...

We've all encountered varying degrees of hurt depending on our family dynamics, socio-economic status, and relationship history. That "hurt" eventually piles up and may later turn into resentment. Without realizing, that resentment makes as jaded and cold. We're unable to open to new possibilities that may lay ahead. So, what do we do with all the emotions? How can we move on to be happy?

1) Forget - When I suggest "forgetting", I don't mean living in denial about the circumstances around you. Our experiences are a vital piece to our tapestry - they combine together to make us who we are. We can either draw strength or weakness from them. I suggest "forgetting" as an acknowledgement of its occurrence and placing it behind you as you move forward. Use those experiences as a stepping stone - learn from them to improve yourself in any way you deem.

2) Forgive - Forgiveness is not an act of submission or acknowledging that the wrong-doing was "ok". It allows you to release the emotional burden you've been carrying. You can make peace with the situation or individual that caused you pain. Forgiveness is purely for YOUR BENEFIT. You'll be more receptive to the new adventures, people, and situations that lay in the future.

So when someone says to you, "I'll forgive what you've done, but I won't forget it!", simply reply with, "Please do both. I truly want you to be happy."

Happy reading ☺

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