We are creatures of habit. It is natural to become comfortable in our relationships, or
our situationships, but when you love someone, comfort and love can become
synonymous. It can be synonymous in your thought process, but in reality
it isn’t really synonymous at all. To be specific, when I mention being
comfortable, I’m referring to being complacent. You should absolutely be
comfortable with who you’re with, but being complacent with your partner is
detrimental.
Love is an emotion, AND it's a verb too. Love and complacency can’t coexist for long. They always clash. How
many times have you asked someone why they’re still with someone even
when they’re not happy? They usually say they love their partner. When
this is said, I’m quite sure one of the participants in the relationship
aren’t being an active member. Think of how you
are when you’re in love. All you want to do is make your partner happy.
You’d like to make their day easier, see them smile. Case in point: last week, The One had an old twisted up water hose rolled up on the side of her house. It would leak out water even when it wasn't being used, causing the ground next to her house to stay damp. I noticed it, replaced it with a hose that I had, and her ground dried up almost immediately. She called me to thank me for replacing it, and I told her to remember that day because love makes thing happen.
Love elicits action. This action should be mutual. Too many people stay in messed up
situations because they’re comfortable. No acts of love are present
anymore. Some people stay in these relationships for fear of starting
over. People aren’t willing to be vulnerable to rejection again. To that
point, I say you have a decision to make. You can always choose to stay in a lackluster relationship. I would
like to challenge you to not live life simply going through the motions.
When you’re in love, you should feel the most alive. If you’re not
excited to be with who you’re with, and they don’t bring you the
vitality you deserve, then you need to end things. Life is short. That
means we need to minimize our disappointments and miscues.
Being complacent will leave you unfulfilled. You don’t deserve that. What we all deserve is to be able to smile
until our face hurts as often as possible. There are too many other things
in life that leave us bogged down, your partner should not be one of
them. Today, at the beginning of the week, I challenge you to be the love you’d like to feel. Challenge
your partner to do the same. If they’re not with it, then tell them you
have two words for them...I’m out! Take control of your life and
happiness because it’s really all you’ve got...
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