From a man’s earliest memories, we are taught that any expression of our
feelings make us soft, and crying is acting like a girl. If you were hurt, MAN UP!
I spent most of my childhood hiding damn near every pain I ever felt. The
funniest part of that is my childhood was the weakest and most painful point of
my life. Fortunately I learned better, however most men live their entire lives
buying into this lie.
For many of us, we are brainwashed into believing we’re supposed to be
emotionally numb. It’s no wonder so many of us are messed up. Most of us are
taught the wrong things and expected to do right. It even spills over to our women,
to a point where they don’t know how to deal with a man who can express
himself.
The earliest stages of your emotional development will dictate how you
function as an adult. On the one hand, most men hear we’re not supposed to show
emotions, yet sleeping with as many women as you can and keeping everything
bottled up makes you a man. Now, we are dysfunctional adults hopping in and out
of relationships, because we don’t know how to function in one.
I can’t speak for everyone, but for me and many others, we do have feelings.
I can honestly say that I can’t wait until I talk to The One whom I can share my
secrets with. The moment that I can enjoy being open to the point where she can
share my weakest moment, and see all of my strengths at the same time. Just
remember, unlike Santa Claus and talking M&M’s, real men with feelings do exist…
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I totally agree with you, since childhood we are told not to cry and hide our feelings. I think men want equal emotional support and counselling.
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