Gentlemen,
There are unfortunate stigmas out there that revolves around society which tells us that women don’t appreciate good men, that you have to be a jerk if you want to get a woman’s attention, or even worse, the supporting stigma out there is good men are becoming harder and harder to actually find. Because of this, fewer and fewer men are putting in the effort to be "good" because they don’t think their efforts will be noticed. We can easily see how the cycle begins: Men don't think women appreciate good guys, so fewer guys act in this way, causing women to become convinced there are no good men left.
There are unfortunate stigmas out there that revolves around society which tells us that women don’t appreciate good men, that you have to be a jerk if you want to get a woman’s attention, or even worse, the supporting stigma out there is good men are becoming harder and harder to actually find. Because of this, fewer and fewer men are putting in the effort to be "good" because they don’t think their efforts will be noticed. We can easily see how the cycle begins: Men don't think women appreciate good guys, so fewer guys act in this way, causing women to become convinced there are no good men left.
Yesterday I put a status up on my personal Facebook page, it was the following:
"I believe men are understanding that a beautiful face means nothing without a beautiful heart and a beautiful mind. Good, mature, established men are recognizing the value of having a teammate in life. Someone he can take on the world with. Someone he can share ideas and discuss life with. Someone who can stand on her own and is with him because she wants him, not because she needs him."
This post stirred up a bit of a discussion.
The interesting thing about it was that out of all the comments, only two of
them were from men. The rest were from women asking where they can actually
find men who think in this way and how men are lacking in this area. I was hoping for other men to step in and back
me up, to confirm what I was saying is true and tell the multiple women
commenting that in fact we do want to find someone with these qualities. No such luck...
Needless to say, when I write articles and quotes I write them from my own
personal perspective. I write from the heart and according to what I really
think and believe. In turn, I write on behalf of the good men out there who
think and feel the same things that I do. Unfortunately, I am beginning
to face more and more challenges from this. Mostly challenges from women, the “where are these men?”
comments are not exclusive to this one post. They happen often, any time I write something
from the male perspective suggesting that we love and appreciate mature,
driven, intelligent women. They happen when I write about how men crave depth and integrity in women. I am frequently
questioned by women who possess these qualities but feel eternally
unappreciated.
The truth is guys, you’re starting to make a liar out of me. I know I
cannot be the only one of us out there willing to voice these feelings on the
topic. Men, I know many of you out there feel unappreciated too. I know you have
great qualities and are kindhearted, genuine, and giving. So this makes me
wonder, are you hiding these traits for fear of putting yourself out there and
being unappreciated? Are you just saying you want a teammate
in life but in reality just want a woman to follow you around like a puppy dog? The fact of the matter is that good men and women are out
there, but they feel as though their attributes go overlooked and therefore
stop displaying them to the world. We should never allow someone’s lack of
appreciation of us alter our nature. Our value and self worth comes from
within, not from the approval of others; that’s why it’s called self
worth.
Women want to believe you still exist. They want romance, courtship,
chivalry, and respect. They want your love and your loyalty. And they want to
give you all of these things in return. Stay strong, stay positive, and stay true to yourself. The right woman will
love everything about you that the wrong women took for granted. Stand up gentlemen, the women of the world are looking for you...
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