RELATIONSHIP LESSON: Men have NO idea how long something they either say or do can stay inside a woman's mind...
Yesterday's tips for the men helped the women, so hopefully today's tips for the women will help the men! Let's see what happens...
He does look at other women - Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it's just a passing glance. It's not like you don't check guys out too!
He
needs time away from you - Men need time to reflect,
socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It
doesn't mean that they don't want to be with you, it is just an escape to
appreciate what they have at home. So while he's out of the house, take that time to go out with your girlfriends or do something you
enjoy.
He just doesn't feel like being bothered sometimes - You've probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn't do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking? "Thank Goodness!" Men do things at their own pace. Unlike women, men are not good at multi-tasking. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it's still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash because n his mind, the trash isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
When
his voice goes high, or he answers a question with the same question, he's
thinking of a lie- If you ask your man, "what did you do
today?' and he replies "what did I do today?" he's probably thinking of lie. It
doesn't mean that he did something inappropriate, just something you wouldn't
approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the guys. If he told you
this, you'd be upset because you had a long day at work or were at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too much fun to
think about if you would ask him that question, so he didn't plan a lie
beforehand.
Nothing is wrong, so stop asking him - Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, "what's wrong?" and he replies, "nothing, I'm just thinking." Well, this answer doesn't satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn't want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy a new car or motorcycle. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.
Sometimes, he needs to solve his problems alone - Most men conquer more than they vent, and most women vent before they conquer. We just solve problems differently. For example, you tell your guy about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You want to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there's a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can't relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.
He
Wants to Feel Successful - A man needs to feel he has
accomplished something in life, and often times that accomplishment is found in
their jobs or careers. Men don't like to feel conflicted between work and
quality time with their families. To men, if they are working hard to earn
money, this will improve the quality of their family's life.
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He does look at other women - Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it's just a passing glance. It's not like you don't check guys out too!
He just doesn't feel like being bothered sometimes - You've probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn't do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking? "Thank Goodness!" Men do things at their own pace. Unlike women, men are not good at multi-tasking. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it's still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash because n his mind, the trash isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
Yes,
he is thinking about sex
- Your man has a far away look in
his eyes. He seems distant. He was thinking about sex. He can't help it, he
thinks about it several times a day. Wouldn't you prefer that he thinks about it
several times a day rather than having sex several times a day?
Nothing is wrong, so stop asking him - Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, "what's wrong?" and he replies, "nothing, I'm just thinking." Well, this answer doesn't satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn't want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy a new car or motorcycle. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.
Sometimes, he needs to solve his problems alone - Most men conquer more than they vent, and most women vent before they conquer. We just solve problems differently. For example, you tell your guy about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You want to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there's a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can't relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.
Feel free to add to it by commenting or email me at therealcakebossblog@gmail.com.
5 comments:
I really enjoyed that sir!! And u really hit things on the head, now if the ladies would just understand it!!
Dat man gone look! Jus mean his reflex is Workn, don't mean he don't want what he got! We jus gone look!
Absolutely true!!! Learned most of these the.hard way.
LOL, truth is truth! We gonna look, but so are they so quit playing!
Thank you for the truth. i real bad about...always asking whats wrong... im a communicator i like to talk things out. but i have to realize, that not everybody is ready to talk when i am... thank you for these helpful tips...YOU HELPING ME... :)
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