I’m fortunate to be considered a go-to guy for women who have issues
with men. Frequently I’m told that many guys have trouble conversing
with women. According to women, men will send the well played "good
morning" text, and the woman would reply. Then the man asks “how are you?”, and
the woman would reply again. Then the conversation ends before it even starts, leaving the woman like...WHY???
Conversations are important, whether through text, phone, or in person.
They set the stage. For the guys who are having trouble in this very
important area of female interaction. Here are a few tips:
1. Be in the Know – Being knowledgeable about a
variety of things is a great benefit. Keep yourself abreast on all
current events (e.g. government shutdown, The Affordable Care Act, pop
culture, new movies/books/music, community events, etc.). Having this
knowledge gives you more things to discuss outside of yourself. It also
shows how well rounded you are if you can discuss the negative effects
of QE3 on the economy, the benefits of Low Mortgage Interest Rates for investors or homeowners, and the local
festival that you may want to take her to this weekend.
2. Showcase Yourself – Conversations allow you to
distinguish yourself. Use the time wisely. If she’s giving you her
attention, make it worth it. If you study neuroscience during your down
time, talk to her about it. I only mention neuroscience because my niece is currently majoring in it (my proud Uncle moment). Hopefully you’re on the journey to
accomplishing great things in your specified field, discuss that with
her. Understand that many guys may have her number, her Facebook, or may
be out on a date with her, but this is your time to show
her who you are and what you have to offer her from a mentally
stimulating perspective.
3. Actively Listen – Many times when we converse
with people, we listen with the intent to respond. This is dangerous and
flat out unintelligent. When a woman speaks to you, listen. It’s much
more important to take in all of what she’s saying before thinking of
what you’re going to say. I understand in many cases you may be nervous
and you don’t want any awkward silences so you feel the need to
constantly speak, but relax.
4. Get intimate – Sεx is very mental as well as it
is physical, but if you know what you're doing, you'll be able to seduce her mentally well before you ever get to seduce her physically. It’ll serve as wonderful foreplay for
whenever you two take it to that next point. The greatest way to
stimulate her mind outside of showcasing your distinguished brilliance
is to be vulnerable. Your brilliance may stimulate her in a way where
she admires it, but depending on the woman, she may not be able to
connect to it. Vulnerability is something she can connect to.
Vulnerability is a form of intimacy. Women have this idea that men
operate fully off of our ego and pride. Let your guard down and show her
that vulnerable side of yourself. She’ll love it and it’ll allow her to
become even more open with you.
5. Be humble at all times – There’s a fine line
between confidence and arrogance. I would say toe that line, but it’s far
more beneficial to just be humble. Don’t come off like you know
everything and don’t come off like you’re the greatest thing the earth
has ever seen. Let who you are speak for yourself.
Fellas you have competition out here. Let that be clear and known.
You have to distinguish yourself in every way imaginable. Your ability
to converse can separate yourself from others, so be mindful of that.
Conversation is an art, let her mind be your canvas, stimulate her mind
and you might very well be on your way!
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