Now two weeks after thanksgiving I come to you 
all a bit more introspective than usual. It’s usually at 
this time of year that we all reflect. The year in review raps get 
posted. People start to talk about new year’s resolutions. Probably one 
of the things we don’t talk much about are the things we didn’t get to 
accomplish during the past year. It’s more likely that we probably beat 
ourselves up privately because certain things didn’t pan out.
If you’re not one of these people, then kudos to you.
The truth is, I have always been one of 
those people. You see, I’m a very laid back guy. I’m subtle in almost 
everything besides my writing. So there are many times where I may not 
be satisfied with where I am at a certain point in my life. I’m always 
looking for that next thing to happen. Sometimes it goes down and 
sometimes it doesn’t, much like a Steph Curry jumper. Ok, who am I 
kidding? All of his jumpers go down.
In all seriousness, a recent conversation with a client at work really got me to thinking.
I don’t take enough time to pat myself on 
the back for the things that I have accomplished this year. To be brief,
 I work with many impoverished families. The woman who came to see me on
 this day was dealing with a pending eviction, she was currently in cancer
 treatment and was living in the family’s house of an adulterating 
estranged husband. So yeah, she had her hands full. As we spoke and I 
gave her some options as to improve some of her situation, she always 
cited seeing the bigger picture. She is currently enrolled at a 
community college and she had this passion for wanting to help others. 
She wants the opportunity to use her struggles as a way to show strength
 to other people going through their own trials. I found that to be 
mighty admirable. It was at that moment that I thought, “Yo, 
you can’t be that hard on yourself all of the time.” The things that I 
obsess over mentally is more so about the writing I want more people to 
see and helping other people cultivate their ideas. I have other 
personal goals that I am driven to meet, but I don’t have ANY issues 
that rival what this woman was going through. In fact, every goal I set for 2015 I have 
completed except for one. The one goal that is incomplete is a big goal;
 a game changing one. Nonetheless, I can still chase this thing next 
year and I plan to. I came to the conclusion that I don’t smell the 
roses enough. All of you reading this, you don’t give yourselves enough 
credit. For whatever reason, we don’t embrace our greatness as often as 
we should. It’s probably because we’re so busy just trying to be great 
and ready for the next opportunity.
In this holiday season, I just want all of you to reflect.
Think about all the work you’ve put in this
 year. Don’t feel guilty to smile about it. Buy yourself those pair of 
boots. Pat yourself on the shoulder. Have yourself an Old Fashioned, or my favorite, a Macallan 25 on a 
Friday evening. However you choose to celebrate, do so with conviction. 
It’s not illegal to be proud of yourself and smell the roses. That’s the
 lesson I ended up taking from that woman recently. So many others see 
all this good in the things we don’t give a second thought to. It’s time
 we do that a little bit more often. Nothing wrong with a heightened 
consciousness. Welcome to the holidays!
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