When it comes to attraction and what men are really looking for, there are a lot of things to consider, but let me give you a little insight into what a decent guy looks for. There are 3 main things that contribute to the overall attraction of a woman: Looks, Personality, and Depth. As looks are the initial attraction, I’ll start with that and hopefully give you some good insight into the subject. When
you see someone, the first thing you notice is how they look. Whether
it be their clothing style, physical attributes or the way they carry
themselves, it’s generally what initially attracts. Now let’s
clear up a few things here. I’m not looking for the ultimate super model
that you would see on television or in magazines. To be honest, that’s just not
realistic and in my opinion is an unhealthy and inaccurate view of what the majority
of women look like. The truth is, women come in all shapes and
sizes, and beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. That means,
different guys are attracted to different types of women. Now since that
is out of the way, let me share with you a few things that I think
affect the attractiveness of a woman.
I would say that the most important thing is to simply take care of yourself.
It’s not so attractive to see a woman who just doesn’t care. I get the
impression that they have just given up. At the same time, don’t get so
obsessed with it that it consumes your life. As is with most things, the
key here is balance. Basically, choose a healthy lifestyle and look
after yourself. If you take care of yourself, not only will you be more
attractive, but you will feel more attractive as well.
This leads in to the next thing, be comfortable with who you are.
If you respect yourself and are comfortable with who you are, it’ll
show. Insecurity is a big turn off and can even be annoying for many
guys. I know I am more attracted to a woman who is comfortable with who
she is. Once you get to the point that you are taking care of yourself,
and are comfortable with who you are, you can build on that. That brings
us to clothing and makeup. Now, this is where I may differ from
some guys. Different types of clothing and makeup styles will attract
different types of guys, and for different reasons. If you’re looking
for a decent guy to form a good relationship with, then I can offer some
good thoughts. I am more attracted to a woman who presents herself
in a good way. Clothes that leave nothing to the imagination may get
guys attention, but probably not the kind of guy that you would want to
form a relationship with. The way you dress really says a lot about who
you are and even more about what kind of guy you’re looking for. Contrary to what some may believe, it is
definitely possible to look “hot” without showing off everything on a date, going to Starbucks, going to church, the supermarket, the laundromat, or wherever! The thing with guys is this: leave us wanting more. If
you reveal everything on the first appearance, then what’s left to keep
his interest?
The last thing is the way you carry yourself.
It’s not so attractive when a girl looks defeated and has given up. You
don’t have to have everything together to be attractive, but it helps
if you’re not a complete basket case. Your emotional state really does
affect the way you look. So make an effort to deal with the issues in
your life. It’ll go a long way towards making you feel better about
yourself, which ultimately will make you more attractive. But now
we’re getting a bit into the next subject, which I will leave for tomorrow. The thing to remember is this, all these factors play into the
overall image that you are portraying to men. Think about what kind of
message you want to send and go from there. To sum it all up, the
way you present yourself will say a lot about the type of guy you are
trying to attract. So if you’re looking for something meaningful and
want to attract Mr. Right, try this out: Take care of yourself, be
comfortable with who you are and the way you look, respect yourself and
be mindful about the image you are portraying.
Tomorrow I’ll give you some of my thoughts on personality and things you can do to attract guys, or repel them, so stay tuned...
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