No Hiding on the Weekend

Do you have big plans for the weekend? Some people pack their weekends with activity. Some have loose plans and still others play it by ear. None of these choices are right or wrong. But if you are single and serious about looking for love, then what steps will you take towards that goal? Perhaps you want to take a long bike ride, go kayaking, or play golf. Any of these options could provide a way to meet new prospects. Go for it!

As a relationship coach for people over 35 or dating after divorce, here’s what I advise you not to do – hide out. One of my clients this week admitted that she often avoids being social by entertaining herself or hanging out with girlfriends. These alternatives are fine, but they will not help achieve her goal of finding a long-term, loving relationship. The desire to hide out is understandable. It feels easier to just live the life you know then risk getting out there, being rejected or not meeting anyone new. Yet, when you think about it, the risk of hiding out is far greater than the risk of rejection. How? Because getting rejected is a quick experience in this moment, then it ‘s over. Hiding out impacts your future!

There are a lot of emotional reasons why you may prefer to hide and that is certainly your choice. But, if you truly desire love, then you will have to find a way out of your non-dating inertia. Chances are strong the first few times you venture out because you forced yourself to go. After three or four times, you may be surprised that you start having fun and enjoy meeting new people. You never know who you will meet or who might connect you to “the one.”

If you want to find love, hiding out is not a productive choice. Once in a while everyone deserves to hide out. Just don’t make it a habit. Prince Charming is not going to knock on your door. You have to go out in public for him to find you. Are you willing to meet him half way? Why not help the guy and get out there tonight?

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