I saw this tweet on my timeline a couple of weeks ago and it caught
my eye. “Just because someone desires you, does not mean they value you”. I had a few thoughts I wanted to express on it, so I figured
what better place to let it all fly than right here on Relationship Lessons. I know a whole heap of ladies read this
site, so knowing this, I hope these words will help someone. It’s damn near common knowledge that a lot of men can be extremely
ambiguous when it comes to their intentions. A lot of ladies spend a
bunch of time in this grey area trying to figure out “what are we?”
Trust me, most guys have heard that question since high school. Today, I
tell you that you don’t have to question yourself so much in regards to
your stance with someone.
Often times a man tells you all he needs to tell you through his actions.
I’ve said a number of times that you have to listen to what a person
is not saying. There should be no sort of confusion once you read
someone’s actions. Men desire many things from a woman. It's his behavior
towards you that will lend itself to exactly what he’s desiring. Pay close attention to the conversations you have and the things he
remembers about you. To the ladies void of going on dates, pay attention
to see if he ever proposes that you all go on one. Figure out what sort
of treatment you want. It may annoy you to have to do so, but put it
out there. If you want to go out sometimes, even if you have to split the bill, let it be known. I understand that every guy doesn’t have the wherewithal to have that base covered, but it doesn't mean y'all can't go out because of it either.
If he values you, he’ll take your concerns under advisement without question.
Don’t ever get excited about the attention you get. Attention is as simple as
turning any man’s head. I believe that time and effort correlate more with value. When
a guy values you, you'll get a full and complete feeling of what’s going on in the relationship.
Your texts will get answered, your guy will keep you smiling, and he has
genuine interest in what makes you happy. In addition, he’ll have even more
interest in what keeps you happy.
The truth is many men have formulas in their head that have shown to work.
They may desire women to solely sleep with. Under that motivation,
they have their ways of going about it. This has created women who
“fall” for that tactic, and therefore, it gives his process some credence.
These fellas find ways to get what they want through limited effort.
Lies and excuses are fed while not enough attention is spent just
feeling out the little things. You ladies just have to make sure a guy is
into who you are versus being into what you are.
We all love the body on a woman. Who doesn’t?
Just make sure that same dude wants to see you get your promotion,
or your masters degree, or whatever else is the case. In all things, let there be a
balance. I think at the end of the day that’s the bottom line to what
I’m trying to say. Nothing works in this life without balance. If you’re
not feeling a balance with someone you’re dating, then it’s simply
something that should be addressed. Of course communication is
paramount, if for no other reason because the more you communicate, the higher
the likelihood you have to weed out the bull. You want to be valued
more than desired. If you succeed at that, then you’re more than deserving.
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