Monday, April 21, 2014

Men Are Either The Quarterback or A Punt Returner

I know you are probably wondering what kind of statement is that, as the quarterback is the most valuable position on the team. Quarterbacks are supposedly the star of the team, they're usually paid the most, they lead the men in the huddle on and off the field, and whenever the ball is placed in their hands, everyone expects magic to happen. They carry the weight of the team’s performance on the field squarely on their shoulders. Once the game is over, quarterbacks are the ones along with the head coach that reporters scramble to get comments from. They are influencers and decision makers, but without a great offense and defense, they wouldn’t be able to do what they do. Let's not forget about the punt returner? They are a valuable part of the team as they return the receiving ball to gain greater field position. The better the return, the better the chance of the quarterback leading the team into the end-zone for a touchdown. They are however, on the field a fraction of the percentage time as that of the quarterback, so they are soon forgotten and not looked upon as the influencers or decision makers on the team. In relationships, men often need to take a look at THEIR position on the team. Do our partners believe we are in it to win it, and assuming the quarterback lead? Do they see us as punt returners who only come out on the field when called upon, hoping you're able to finally move things forward, and put them in good position to take back over what should be your game to lead? Men, take the quiz and see which position you hold most often.
  1. Do you take the initiative to ensure the partnership is moving in a positive direction with your finances, or do you wait to see what’s left at the end once she pays the bills and gives you an update?
  2. Do you come together for regular meetings or gatherings to ensure everyone is on the same page, or do you wait until something is out of line and you are called to handle it?
  3. Do your remind your partner that she is valuable and appreciated with reinforcements like a thank-you, or do you constantly tune out complaints that she feels under-appreciated and overlooked?
  4. After a trying and tiring day on the field (home or work) do you take time to encourage her and have her back, or do you check out on your own and figure she will be all right tomorrow?
  5. Are you invested 100% and show up daily in the relationship to work, or are you in the relationship 50% of the time and spend it on the sideline as a spectator?
If you find your actions are lining up with the punt returner position, learn the lesson and adjust accordingly to become the quarterback in your relationship she needs you to be. Lead your family and leave a legacy that would make her proud to be a part of your winning team.

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