Wednesday, April 22, 2015

My Ted Mosby Life as a Hopeless Romantic



From 2005 to 2014, I lived my life watching a television show called "How I Met Your Mother". Every Monday night I watched identifying with one particular character, and as time went on, I began to see myself in him and could very well identify with his method of operation. Today's blog is a dedication to all the Ted Mosby’s of the world. Those of you who are like me and love fiercely, live passionately and refuse to give up on love, no matter how beaten and broken it leaves you. This is for the dream weavers, truth seekers and love makers of the world. We’re probably the single one among our group of friends for the most part, and it just doesn’t make sense to us or anyone else. We’re a total catch: We’re ambitious, passionate, intelligent, witty and not at all bad looking. We’re independent and we know ourselves extremely well, but love just doesn’t seem to happen for us as it happens for others. When things don’t work out, it often leads us to wonder; Was I annoying? Did I come off too clingy or obsessive? Was I too emotional? Was I intimidating? Was I too nice? The very fact that we are even asking ourselves these questions leaves us feeling convinced that it may very well be true.

We’re the type of people who gives ourselves completely; we wear our heart on our sleeves. We’re the one who grew up believing in fairytale romances and quickly became disillusioned, but we never give up. Our friends often tell us not to get too attached too soon or to stay guarded because we’ll only get your heart broken, but we do it anyway because it’s just in our nature. We are an advocate for love and believe in giving all we can in the name of love.

The truth is, our heart does get broken repeatedly. Friends sometimes feel sorry for us because they know we have a big heart and people take advantage of it. They are there to support us, but also host interventions when they’ve had enough of our recklessness. They hate seeing us get hurt, however we’re okay with it because no matter how many times we fall, we know how to get back up. We remain open to possibilities and just want to enjoy the company of another human being. Connection is essential to our life, and where it may lead could be a masterpiece. We know that our relentless pursuit of love and happiness can be detrimental to our soul, but we take your chances anyway because of the gamblers we are.

People tend to think of us as unlucky in love, but we see it in a different light. What may appear to others as a bad choice, we see as an opportunity for love. Even when a relationship leaves us feeling like a train just hit us, we have no regrets. It leaves us with an enriching experience and we learned lessons about ourselves and life. It has made us all the more abundant. Our optimism is what gets us back up each and every time to do it all over again. At first, it was with a bit of resistance, but we have faith that one day, we will find the woman or man with the yellow umbrella, and the only way we will get there is by trying. We don’t make being in a relationship the priority of your life because we realize the importance of our dreams.

Just as Mosby was passionate about architecture, we are passionate about what we do. We live in love with every aspect of our lives. We live with your arms wide open. We also have a gypsy heart, the kind that has a desire to flee because we are all about developing and reinventing ourselves. Like Ted Mosby, we’re also the kind who would give it all up in a heartbeat if it meant being with the one we love, and we wouldn’t even think twice. It’s not because we don’t love ourselves enough, it’s because of the realization that dreams are only made more special when they can be shared with someone else.

Eventually we learn to stop settling for less, and open our hearts to the one who will reciprocate. We just had to hit a few roadblocks to get there, and that’s what makes the journey even more beautiful. Our lives are not filled with “the one”, but many ones who would open our heart so big, we could only give more. When we find that special one, we'll know just how lucky he or she is to have found us. We have so much love to give, and the right person for us is the one who will give it all back in return. Don’t fret, that special someone could be right around the corner. We just have to keep having that faith, and keep our eyes open for that yellow umbrella... 

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