Love Yourself When, There Is No One Else (Guest Blogger)

Last week I opened up the blog up to a guest writer, and today like every Tuesday, I want to do the same for those who wish to submit me relationship material. Last week you heard from a man, so for the first time I present to you the female perspective from Annetta Garrett...

The time has come in this game called life when you've poured a significant amount of time and energy into a relationship, learning the relationship playbook and your key player, when just like THAT...you’re a free agent again. It would be nice if you were sitting on the bench or even if you got traded, at least you would still be playing. Unfortunately, you’re sitting by the phone hoping you will get a call saying you’ve been picked up so you can play again. The ball is in your court, so what’s next? After all you were the MVP, (Most Valuable Partner). Now you’re on team Numero Uno, and like the song goes, "if you think you’re lonely now, wait until tonight". Now is the time for self-reflection. Get back on your game to get back into the game. And it starts with YOU! Here are five steps to loving self when there is no one else:

©      Dress up: I know, I know it sounds vain, but if you watch any makeover show and we get down to the nitty gritty...how you feel on the inside reflects on the outside. Men, wear a nice suit, put on some cologne (this drives women pheromones crazy) and demonstrate your swag. Ladies rock your stilettos, a hot dress, whatever makes you feel sexy, maybe some new Victoria Secret, and no one has to see them for you to feel sexy.

©      Spoil Yourself: Take a “Me” day and Relax, Relate, Release!! This includes going to the spa, gym, beauty salon, barbershop, your favorite place to eat or walking by the lakefront of beach.

©      Date Yourself: Go out by yourself to the movies, to eat, to have a cocktail. You didn’t think you did all that dressing up for nothing now, did you? If you don’t enjoy your own company why would anyone else.

©      Take a trip: You're a free agent. Now its time to go out and have some fun, and when you get there check in...NOT!!! You are free to explore. Plan a trip with friends, or maybe go on a girls getaway, go on a camping trip, try skiing. Get out and meet some new people because as a free agent, you have to explore your options.

©      Fulfill your dreams: Remember when you said that you couldn’t go back to school because there was too much on your plate. The last relationship failed because you just started a new business which interfered with your relationship. You said the you wouldn’t move out of the country because your boo didn’t want to go. Now you are free as a bird. Run Forrest Run after you dreams.

Remember being alone or lonely is a complete state of mind. You can be with someone and be lonely and be in a room full of people and still be alone. Take this time to revamp your playbook. The ball in your court and you can play this game however you want.

If you have a view on love and relationships that you would like to submit for a chance to be a guest blogger on Tuesdays, all you have to do is follow me on Facebook and Twitter, and email me your blog along with a profile picture to therealcakebossblog@gmail.com. I believe that I can't be the only voice out here, and there are people who believe in love even if you've been heartbroken before. Let me hear from you!

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