From the movie “Hitch”
starring Will Smith, perseverance is defined as continuing in a course of action
without regard to discouragement, opposition or previous failure. When
I think about it, I can’t imagine a better word to define exactly where I am in
the relationship world today. We ALL need to persevere when it comes to love, simply
because you never know how or when the love boomerang you threw out will find
its way back to you. If you’re not paying attention, that boomerang will knock
you over the head. Three of the simplest lessons I can show you is how
perseverance particularly pertains to me and my situation…
#1: If you don’t GO AFTER what you want, you will never have
it.
#2: If you don’t ASK, the answer is always going to be no.
#3: If you don’t STEP FORWARD, you’ll always be in the same
place.
When I started this blog in 2012, I never imagined I would
come full circle into what I believed would never happen. I became discouraged
myself after thinking for years that I blew my chances with The One. I said to
myself and to others there was absolutely no way things would ever happen the
way I scripted it in my mind. It was at that point that I decided to move on
and look for another relationship, mostly because I was tired of trying. One
thing I’ve learned is things never go as they are scripted when it comes to God
or relationships. I had to let go of what I thought was the right path, and
learn it the way God intended me to. That in itself was the hardest thing ever
for me to do, mostly because I love being in control for so long, I didn’t know
any other way (truthfully, I didn’t want to know any other way).
LaShaun always told me no when I asked her out. Looking back
at it, she probably saw that I wasn’t even close to being ready. I wanted to be
with her, but there was no purpose to my intentions. I said ok to her no, but I
didn’t give up because I knew I’d ask her again someday. Her saying yes came
and we went out and had a great time seeing Wayne Brady. Lessons 1, 2 and 3 in
perseverance have led us to actually going out, partly because of me not giving
up, but mostly because she could see something different in me. My purpose and
intentions are totally different. I couldn’t
help to remember Hitch and his definition, but I can’t help but remember God,
his promises and his lessons more.
Going out on a date with your ex husband or wife is usually
frowned upon by practically everyone on the planet, but if you know what you
did wrong, they know what they did wrong, and you both have grown to the point
that the other person notices it, then I say give it a shot. Don’t use it as a
chance to get some things off your chest, or see it as an opportunity to find
closure. In this case, God’s script on relationships and perseverance is
infinitely better than mine could ever be. Go after it, ask, and step forward.
Be prepared for NO, and don’t give up once you hear it. How you react to no
will define who you are, more than anything…
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