Five Ways to Know They ARE The One

The relationship that you choose to be in will be the single most important decision you ever make in your life. It will affect your health, your finances, and your emotional well-being more than almost any other decision you will make. So why do some people rush into it so haphazardly. while others take forever to commit? Do yourself a favor, and take five minutes out of your life to read the tips below. With a little bit of self-reflection, you will see that the choice is clear; either the one you are seeing right now is amazing for you, or they aren’t. Here are five ways to help you figure out if they are the right one for you.

1. It’s Easy - I have talked to numerous couples that have been married for anywhere from 15 to 50 years, and they have all had one common denominator: it was easy. They didn’t have multiple breakups, or plate-throwing fights, or countless instances of infidelity to muddle through. They met. They liked each other. They started dating. It was easy. They got married, and then they stayed married because they liked each other. There were no major road bumps that caused them to doubt why they were trying to force the relationship to work. In the right relationship, you’ll realize that it takes effort, but it doesn’t take work.

2. The Important Stuff Is The Same - Do your core values align with each other? Do you both agree on whether or not you want kids? What does an ideal night look like to each of you? How frequently do you each exercise? If you don’t know yourself and if you don’t know what values are truly important to you, you might find it difficult to determine whether or not he or she is the right one for you. If you find yourself searching for a partner to complete you, you might need to do some searching internally first. If the big things match up, the little things fall by the wayside.

3. Your Closest Friends Like Them - Your closest friends and family members aren’t you, but they have a pretty good idea of who you are. In fact, recent research suggests that those closest to you actually know you better than you know yourself. So if the people who have your best interests at heart don’t get along with your significant other, it could be a warning sign. Have the patience and willingness to truly listen to the opinion of your friends on your relationship.

4. It’s Almost Scary How Much You Turn Each Other On - You don’t want to hide them from your friends, you want to show them off. You don’t have a passive-aggressive headache when they are in the mood. You find each other so arousing that you are distracted you from your work. You will want to devour him. You’ll want to know her thoughts, her feelings, and all about her preferences. You will adore her cellulite, his eye wrinkles, and the way she snorts when she laughs her hardest. You are attracted to his body, her mind, each others heart and soul. And you’ll think you didn’t have a sex drive before you met them.

5. You Want To Make Life As Easy As Possible - People are problem solvers, it’s how we see everything, and the way you view each other is no different. You don’t just want to show each other the simple solutions, you will want to help your partner live the happiest and most uncomplicated life possible. His jacket will be flying off his shoulders before she even hints that she is cold. She will hear all about his day even if she knows exactly how to ‘fix’ it. He will catch her before she falls. If you have an unrelenting desire to help make his life as pleasurable as possible, take that hint: you really care about this one.

How To Really Know If They Are The Right One For You? No one is perfect. There will always be what some refer to as the ‘price of admission‘ in any relationship, those tiny things that can be cute but are usually frustrating. She doesn’t put away the bread after taking a slice. He never remembers to hang up his wet towels. She snores after a night of drinking red wine. But, when the big things are in place, that ‘price of admission’ is ridiculously worth it. The right partner will inspire you to grow, step up, and become the best you there ever was.

And you’ll want to fight to keep them. Not that you’ll ever need to...

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