Take a moment to reflect on the society that we are living in. To me, it has
become a society of participation trophies: awards for just showing up. A
society of some high school football teams who have stopped keeping scores at
games, so nobody’s feelings get hurt. A society of endless internet memes that
proclaim that everyone deserves love and is perfect just the way they are. Whose
love is it they are deserving of? It has to come from somewhere, and that
somewhere is you and me.
Do you feel that everyone is deserving of the love that you can
give?
Now, this may not be the warm and fuzzy feel of a blog you are used to from
me, but sometimes warm, fuzzy and unconditional reinforcement isn’t good if
you’re reinforcing the wrong thing. The issue with a society that teaches
everyone is perfect the way they are is that it encourages no improvement or
change. No standards. No willingness to move forward because the current
scenario is just fine, right? Wrong…
Some people lie. Some people cheat. Some people abuse. Some people mistreat
you or others around you. And if we don’t stand up and tell them what they’re
doing is wrong, they will never change. It’s like a dog who misbehaves and we
continue to reward them with treats, expecting that someday they will
understand their actions are unacceptable. It doesn’t work that way. The ones
who work to become better are deserving of your love. The ones who will do
everything for you, and expect nothing from you in return. The ones who will
care for you as if you were an extension of themselves. The ones who
compromise, sacrifice, and fight for you. Those are the
people who deserve your love.
I know there will inevitably be people who talk about psychological issues
and things people can’t control. I know some out there had bad childhoods or
traumatic experiences that affected the person they are, and that does not mean they are
undeserving of love, but the expectations should be set
that in order to actually receive this love they deserve (from you), they need
to work to change and improve. Stop giving your time, your body,
and most of all your heart, to people who haven’t earned it. Raise
the standards you have for yourself and those around you. Raise your standards
for what you expect out of people in order to allow them into your life.
Give everyone a chance to earn what you have to give, but don’t give it away
freely, or eventually you will have nothing left…
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