The Games People Play (50 years and 500 blogs later)

I made it to 50 years old this past Saturday, and we made it to the 500th blog posting today. It's a happy time all around. Thanks for the birthday love via social media, and all of the blog support...

I am NOT a game player. I actually despise the game players. Just like I despise the actions of women who think they are too good to walk thru a door that a man holds open for them. I’ll be sure to circle back to that one in another blog someday, but I think that game players are immature and set a horrible example for what people THINK dating should be.

Some common dating tips that I have heard, are such things like:

“Act like you don’t care.”
“Pretend you are super busy having the time of your life.”
“Don’t text him more words than he text you and so forth.”

In actuality, the one embracing this mentality is at home themselves so bored, they could just die and rip all their hair out. No, no, no, no, no! Do you even hear yourself right now? Don’t text him more words than he texts you?!? What the hell is this, kindergarten?!?

This is real life people, not a dress rehearsal. This is the NOW. We are in REAL TIME.

Will you even be here tomorrow or next month to tell whoever it is you love that you really, actually, in fact, do love them and want to marry them? Just think about that for a quick second. What if you never got the chance to tell that someone how you really feel because of whatever reason it may be. Are you scared, embarrassed, shy, feel stupid, have too much pride? Well, there’s no time like the present and you know what I always say, “No guts, no glory.” Maybe, just maybe they can’t get you off of their mind either. Maybe, just maybe, they are feeling the same way and was too scared to do anything about it because they don’t want to get rejected.

Men try to act tough, but we all know deep down that they are all just big oversized babies that need to be taken care of. Now, if the guy has already made it very crystal clear that the only chance of you two getting back together is when flowers flourish through hell freezing over, well, then that is a whole different story in itself. In that case, you need to move on. Point blank, period. There will be someone else for you and it just means that your soul and his soul were not meant to be entangled for the rest of eternity, and that is ok. That just means you are that much closer to finding the one soul who you ARE supposed to be entangled with for eternity. How exciting is that?

Back to my other point, if you know in your heart there still might be some feelings between you and a past or present lover, you should go for it. Why the hell not? Sometimes the second time around is a charm. What do you have to lose except your pride? Who really cares about pride anyway? If it all fails, I promise you will recover. Great risk, equals great love. How are you ever going to get a hit if you never take a swing?

Now, I’m not saying show up at their house unannounced like a crazy person in the middle of the night, screaming up to their balcony for all to hear. Just be real with them and even more importantly, be real with yourself. I'm sure that we have all had a slice or two of the push and pull, cat and mouse game like Tom and Jerry. It is just exhausting, and to be honest, it is utterly pointless. You should be able to keep your relationship fun, exciting and spicy WITHOUT having to torture each other through emotional pain.

If the only excitement you have is though playing games, perhaps you should sit down and ask yourself if having an energy sucking relationship is sufficient for your needs and wants out of this life. If you are in kindergarten up thru high school, then play your games, but when you get to be the age of where you are legally able to rent a car, the games seriously need to stop. If you just don’t want to have a serious anything in your life, then keep on keeping on as you are.

If acting interested scares them away, then guess what? Say bye-bye, and be sure to thank them when the door hits their ass on the way out. You just saved yourself a lot of time and probably a lot of tears.  

Let’s keep the games to Monopoly, shall we?