Women and Loyalty

LOYALTY: An example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like. (dictionary.com) Men, how do you know if a woman is loyal to you? Better yet, how do you know if a woman is loyal to the relationship? If you don’t know already, a relationship works independent of an individuals pride and ego. So how do you know if your significant other is loyal to the relationship? While there are many tell-tale signs, below are three ways you can gauge your woman’s loyalty to the relationship:

1. She remains consistent even when (not if) you make her upset. Let’s say you love to come home from work to warm bath water, but earlier in the day, you made your significant other upset because you forgot to put gas in her car before going to bed last night. If you come home and find that she still ran your bath water to your liking, she is loyal to the relationship. She realizes that while you’ve upset her, not preparing your bath water will only cause you to be upset. And once you combine one upset person in a relationship with another upset person in the relationship, the relationship itself explodes. Although you disappointed her, she does what is best not for you, but for the relationship.
2. She comes to you first with her problems. Some women may resort to discussing personal matters in your relationship with friends or family before coming to you. A woman who is loyal to the relationship realizes it can be extremely harmful to bring “outsiders” into a personal matter. Instead of taking her issues with you to her friends and family, a loyal woman comes directly to you. If she finds that she is unable to successfully express her concerns to you, then she resorts to seeking another opinion to better understand how to communicate her concerns to you. She is doing this not for herself, but for the sake of the relationship.
3. She takes pride in being in the relationship and doesn’t take you for granted. When a woman is proud to be in a relationship, she wears that pride on her sleeve — not in a boastful manner. It’s just that her happiness beams so much that it can’t be contained or hidden. Of course, this means you have to give her reason to be proud (which will be shared in a follow-up article tomorrow). Although she knows you could be with someone else, and she could be with someone else, she is happy to know that both of you have chosen to be with one another. A woman who doesn’t want to have “options” because she’s content with being with you, is a woman to keep and treat with the utmost respect.

These are just a few way to determine loyalty, and I'm sure there are others. If you know of any more, feel free to leave them in the comments below. Tomorrow I will tell you how to gauge a man's loyalty to the relationship...

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Life Goes On (Guest Blogger)

A couple of days ago, I was going through my regular morning routine of reading my Facebook newspaper, when I came across one of my friends posts. Do you ever have a moment when you stop browsing and you find yourself engulfed in what someone has posted? Well, that's what happened to me when I read it (three times) and I begged for permission to put it on the blog, You all know I don't beg for much but this lesson was worthy of it, so I yield the worldwide stage and give you today's guest blogger Alyse Thomas.

When you love hard, it's VERY easy to become bitter when things don't work...especially when you KNOW you've been good to folk. The ignominy associated with failed relationships is very real. Not only do you feel like death, but you have to tear down the thousand pictures and post you put up when y'all were "in love" AND you have to deal with all the "oh, where's _____?", or "did you hear _____ was doing/out with _____?" I mean, it can really get bothersome. And too, if it ain't a clean break, you grow to hate the very man/woman you once envisioned spending your life with. It's rough...and because it's SO darn rough, it discourages you from trying again. However, in prayer my pastor encouraged me to love again. I was half dead, but I was woke enough to hear him say..."this one won't do you like the last one". He briefly touched on fear and how we should just go on and live. It blessed me SO much I wanted to share it with y'all. 

I know this post might be a little lengthy, but I just wanted to encourage you guys to believe again. All men and women aren't the same, and everybody isn't going to break your heart. If nothing else, heart break has taught me how to be wise in my dealings and to take things very slow. It taught me to enjoy the beauty of friendship. I know in the beginning of heartbreak, it feels like someone died but a year and a half later, I'm here to tell you that life DOES go on, and it can be absolutely beautiful! I won't say some days aren't hard and you won't miss them, because that's a lie...you WILL hit some hard days and you WILL miss them. In those moments, learn to smile about what was right and learn from what wasn't. Love is a beautiful experience with the right person (or so I hear) and I'd hate for us to miss it because we're mad. Life is way too short to harp over who doesn't love you, especially when you can be outside bumping into the person who WANTS to love you.

Once more, I apologize for the length but it was on my heart. I once read that we overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony (Rev. 12:11) and maybe speaking what I've learned in my experience can help you make it through yours. I love you guys and God loves you too. The more you get lost in Him, the more all else will disappear. So, stop fooling yourself into believing you'll be single forever YOU WON'T, but you will be single until you give God your whole heart. If you give it to Him He'll patch you up real good, believe me!

Ok, I'm done!
Lyse

Well said Alyse, well said...

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