I wish I was moving toward having someone in my life to call my own. I want a partner like
everyone else, but unlike most people, I’m actually ready for a
partner. Don’t misunderstand me, I enjoy my solitude
from time to time and as an introvert, I’ve grown to appreciate relying on just myself. Being alone
strengthens me, and it allows for a particular sort of drive: the drive to
live my life in a particular way that only I can construct. Being single seems
to define “freedom” but freedom is overrated. I like the idea of having
no responsibilities until I realize that a life without responsibility has no
purpose.
We want our independence until we realize it can become a prison of its
own. Most people vacillate between wanting complete freedom and
desiring a partner. We want the best of both worlds, and only a healthy
balance will make us content. Whoever this person in your life becomes, they have to be someone special, and unless
this someone blows you away, what exactly is the point? If you find a mediocre
partner and have a mediocre love, then ultimately you’ll find yourself with a
mediocre life.
Life is too short to settle for something less than spectacular. If you’ve ever been in love, you must have been blown away by the
experience. If this new prospect doesn’t blow you away, it’s unlikely you’ll be
willing to settle. In fact, if you aren’t blown away by someone, you won’t be
capable of falling in love with him or her. That’s what love is; it’s being
caught off-guard, being surprised, shocked even, that a person who feels so
right really exists. The reasons behind why you’re blown away doesn’t make a difference.
All that matters is that you recognize this someone as special, and worth both
your time and devotion. It’s not about going head-over-heels. The most
experienced people know to stay on solid ground, but you need
support in case you lose your foothold. If you look at your partner and
understand that you’ve found the missing piece, then you are one of the
luckiest individuals in the world. If this isn’t the case, accept that
something is missing and move on. It’s best not to waste time, as you never
know how much of it you'll have.
When the one it isn’t the one, you’ll always be looking for the next one. People are restless; you’ll be looking for greener grass before you know it.
Of course, happily ever after isn’t always realistic. Some people simply
give up and settle, but that certainly isn’t right either. Sometimes
settling is an acceptable option, if you realize that the chances of
finding someone greater aren’t worth risking the possibility of being
alone. While plenty of people have more than enough time to find the love
of their lives, not everyone can manage to do so. Some people settle too soon.
But what can you do? We reap what we sow, and we’ll learn from our
mistakes. For everyone else, settling for something short of reality-changing is not
acceptable. One day, you’ll admit to yourself that your choice was not enough
to make you happy. You’ll never be content if you continue to share your life
with this person. Partnerships shouldn’t be simply bearable. They should
be synergistic. They should improve your life, not just keep things steady. You
need to believe that your life can get better indefinitely, because sooner or
later, you’ll come to terms with the fact that your life is creeping toward its
end. At that point, the only thing keeping you sane is the person you’re
sharing your life with.
If your partner doesn’t blow you away, then it really isn’t real. Being blown away is subjective and personal. If your partner doesn’t inspire
and amaze you, you’ll come to realize that you don’t need him or her in your
life. You don’t need the smartest, sexiest, most incredible individual. You
don’t need the person everyone’s chasing. You don’t need someone
who’s perfect; you need someone that’s perfect for you. You need
someone who will make you feel most like yourself, not the self that you parade
in front of the rest of the world, but the person you know yourself to be. This
is the moment when you know you’ve found your soul mate. It happens when you
find someone who appreciates you for who you really are, and just
as importantly, loves you through all of it.
When you find this person, I can promise you one thing. No matter what ends
up happening, you’ll be blown away as soon as you meet, and it’s going to be
incredible. When it comes to having someone in my life to call my own, being blown away is exactly what I'm patiently waiting for…
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